Support, validation, facts, and proven steps to recover from Narcissistic abuse… you’ll find them all here.

The Survivors’ Pocket Coaching is a companion feature for the Choose You Podcast. NPD research notes, first-hand experiences & observations, and Weekly Q&A’s are posted here in-between podcast episodes.

Hi. I’m Carmen Sakurai…

I’m an INFJ Single Momma, Certified Trauma-Informed Master Life Coach with a BSc in Psychology, Certified Coach Practitioner of several types of psychotherapy including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, with over 20 years of education, training, and experiences.

I’m also trained and certified in Mental and Behavioral Health Studies with focus on Stress Management, Burnout Prevention, Depression, and Suicide/Violent Behavior.

But I was FAR from immune to NPD abuse. I’ve experienced the crazy-making. I’ve been devalued and dragged through the aftermath of the discard. I’ve had to find my way out of the confusion - while raising my son and running a business. I’ve even used the National Lifeline at my very darkest, hopeless, and most suffocating moment.

I know FIRST-HAND what Narcissistic abuse can do to your heart, mind, and body. I know this isn’t just a bad breakup… I know not all mothers are wired to love their children… and I know all that it takes to break free.

What’s Inside CY! Pocket Coaching?

The Choose YOU! Podcast is broadcasted every Monday. These weekly episodes are provided as a type of “audio coaching” where I cover important facts to guide you through the NPD abuse recovery journey, smash myths that could potentially hinder your progress, and answer your questions. Podcast episodes always come with supporting worksheets, checklists, and/or helpful resources.

I also post a weekly check-in every Tuesday to delve deeper into what was covered in the week’s podcast episode including: the science behind it, why it’s important in your healing & breakthrough, and how you can use it to empower yourself.

You can listen to the Choose YOU! Podcast in your email, on Substack, or in the Substack app where you’ll also find full transcripts.

CY! Pocket Coaching PLUS

This is the paid option where subscribers gain access to key information, guidance and support including:

  • Weekly Virtual Q&A where you can ask your questions to clarify, receive validation, and get support (free subscribers can always read the 1st Q&A in each session).

  • SOS Cards to help guide you out of stuck-points when you’re feeling weak & confused.

  • Get Behind the Scenes audio, video, and podcast episodes where I share my observations, mistakes & assumptions during my own recovery.

  • Community Privileges to post comments and ask your questions.

  • Access to ALL archives including previous posts (free subscribers gets posts from the past 30 days)

  • Exclusive discounts to my group/self-study intensives, 1:1 coaching.

  • … and more!

How much does the CY! Pocket Coaching PLUS cost?

$5 per month or $50 per year.

Remember - Paid Subscribers receive FULL ACCESS to every content I publish here, including virtual Q&As, all paywalled articles, videos, audio, and bonus podcast episodes, as well as posting privileges to comment and get your questions answered.

Whichever Way You Choose to Join Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching…

Together, we’ll throw EVERYTHING I have at what you’re fighting against: my education in personality disorders, training in human behavior, and my personal experience as a survivor.

You will learn to confidently #ChooseYOU.

I believe you. You’re NOT alone.



I invite you to visit my website at for more resources to support your recovery and re-building (if you need help and forget how to spell my name, go to And follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok.

Subscribe to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching

A companion to the Choose YOU! Podcast. NPD research notes, narcissistic abuse first-hand experiences, and Q&As for discussion & validation in-between episodes.


Carmen Sakurai

Single Momma. Certified Trauma-Informed Master Life Coach. Toxic Relationship + Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Wannabe Foodie. Entrepreneur. Survivor. #GirlPower