🌱 Phase 1: Awareness
Goal: Help survivors identify and understand what they’ve experienced.
Remember: Healing is not linear. You can revisit any phase or framework whenever you need—this roadmap is here to support you, wherever you are on your journey.
status: ✅ live / 🟩 in progress / 🟢 coming soon / ⚪ not started
📍Understanding NPD and Abuse Dynamics
Frameworks:
🟩 Narcissism Explained: What is NPD? Traits, behaviors, & patterns.
🟩 What Counts as NPD Abuse? Emotional, verbal, physical, etc.
🟢 Cycle of Abuse: Idealization, devaluation, discard, and hoover.
⚪ Common Myths About Narcissism: Dispelling misconceptions.
⚪ Signs Youʼre in an Abusive Relationship: Red flags and how to identify covert abuse.
📍Psychological Effects of Abuse
Frameworks:
⚪ Cognitive Dissonance
⚪ Trauma Bonding
⚪ Learned Helplessness
⚪ C-PTSD
⚪ Hypervigilance
⚪ Dissociation
📍Recognizing Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics
Frameworks:
1. Gaslighting & Reality Distortion
Purpose: Undermine the survivor’s sense of reality, memory, and perception.
🟩 Gaslighting 101: Spot manipulation and stand in your reality
⚪ Projection
⚪ Changing the Timeline / Rewriting History
⚪ Weaponized Reflection – Using your self-awareness against you
⚪ Invalidation / Minimization
⚪ Deflection / Playing the Victim – Flipping the blame to avoid accountability
⚪ False Accusations – Accusing you of things to confuse or control the narrative
2. Punishment & Control
Purpose: Enforce compliance, instill fear, and maintain dominance.
⚪ Silent Treatment
⚪ Threats & Intimidation – Using fear to control or silence you
⚪ Withholding (Affection, Information, Support) – Denying basic needs as a form of control
⚪ Control of Information” and “Retaliation
⚪ Isolation – Cutting you off from support to make you dependent on them
⚪ Control (Micromanagement, Social/Financial/Emotional) – Dictating your choices to maintain dominance
⚪ Guilt Tripping
⚪ Reverse Accusation / DARVO
⚪ Revenge-Seeking – Deliberately trying to "punish" you after perceived injury
3. False Intimacy Tactics
Purpose: Manufacture closeness or dependency to gain trust and manipulate.
🟩 Love Bombing
⚪ Mirroring & Fake Bonding
⚪ Manipulative Flattery – Over-the-top praise used to disarm and control you
⚪ Future Faking
⚪ Hoovering
⚪ Using Personal Information Against You – Weaponizing your vulnerability once you've opened up
4. Behavioral Reinforcement
Purpose: Shape the survivor’s behavior through reward/punishment cycles.
⚪ Intermittent Reinforcement
⚪ Triangulation
⚪ Emotional Whiplash
⚪ Reactive Abuse
⚪ Smear Campaigns
⚪ Baiting – Provoking you into an emotional reaction to gain power or justify abuse
5. Verbal & Emotional Sabotage
Purpose: Erode self-esteem, create self-doubt, and destabilize.
⚪ Criticism and Insults – Constantly tearing you down, often under the guise of “helping”
⚪ Patronization – Talking down to you in a way that undermines your intelligence or worth
⚪ Blame-Shifting – Making everything your fault to avoid responsibility
⚪ Shaming – Making you feel inherently defective, wrong, or disgusting
⚪ Malicious Remarks Disguised as Jokes – Cruel comments framed as “humor” to avoid accountability
📍Family Roles & Dynamics in Narcissistic Abuse
Frameworks:
⚪ Family roles in narcissistic abuse
⚪ Narcissistic Mother
⚪ Enabler
⚪ Scapegoat
⚪ Golden Child
⚪ Lost/Invisible Child
⚪ Flying Monkeys
⚪ Parentification
// healing phases //
🌱Phase 1: Awareness ~ ⚔️Phase 2: Detachment ~ ❤️🩹Phase 3: Healing
🪷Phase 4: Reconnection ~ 💪Phase 5: Empowerment